How to Find Comfort in Times of Stress

By February 19, 2014 How To, Informative 5 Comments

There are times when my dizzying array of responsibilities seems so daunting that I wonder how I manage to keep up with it all. Work, life, family, friends, romantic interests, hospital appointments, health insurance wars, blogging, social media, my personal business, etc. Needless to say, it sometimes feels difficult to find comfort in times of stress.

When life feels chaotic or I see that I am beginning to put too much emphasis on any one area of my life, I know that it’s time to slow down and do something to rejuvenate my spirit.

People tend to think that taking time for themselves is a huge undertaking that is impossible to achieve. What they don’t realize is that there are really simple ways to decrease stress.

The problem is, in order to achieve comfort in times of stress, we have to be fully present in the experience.

What does it mean to be present in an experience? It simply means that if you’re worried about paying your bills on time or you’re worried about whether or not you said something to make your friend angry, you put those worries aside for the moment and concentrate on what is happening in the time and space that you presently occupy. Use your senses of touch, taste, hearing, and seeing to connect with what’s happening in front of you.

Comfort is an emotional experience that occurs when one feels feeling safe, loved, or connected to others. As you take action in something you find comfort in, ask yourself if you are fully experiencing the moment of whatever it is you’re doing by tuning in with your senses.

Share your favorite stress reducing comforts with me in the comments section below!

Drinking tea is my primary go to when I feel a bit stressed. There’s something peaceful about taking slow sips of tea, allowing it to warm my body from the inside.

According to research done by Steptoe, Gibson, Vounonvirta, et al. (2007), “6 weeks of tea consumption leads to lower post-stress cortisol and greater subjective relaxation, together with reduced platelet activation.” In other words, drinking tea leads to a decreased stress response in the body. You can read about the study here.

Lately, I’ve been drinking this organic blueberry rooibos tea because it 1) tastes good, 2) is caffeine-free, 3) is high in antioxidants, 3) has minerals that are good for bone health, and 4) improves circulation.

Blueberry Rooibos TeaRishi Tea Blueberry Rooibos

When I have more time to spare, I turn on certain movies that I’ve seen numerous times, because they include sounds and visuals that I find very comforting.

The American Psychological Association’s annual “Stress In America 2009” report states that of the 1,568 adults surveyed, 36% cited movie watching as a stress reliever. You can read about the study here.

Below are a few of my favorite movies.

Over the years, I’ve had so many great animal friends. Petting an animal is a really easy way to reduce stress.

According to research done by Anderson, Reid, and Jennings (1992) “Pet owners had significantly lower systolic blood pressure and plasma triglycerides than non-owners.” You can read about the study here.

Here’s a picture of me with my favorite dog friend, Beans.

Josephine and Beans

Josephine and Beans

Nothing can be more comforting than a chat with someone who cares about you and has been by your side through good times and bad.

According to Berkowitz (2002) “Study after study has found that social ties reduce our risk of disease by lowering blood pressure, heart rate, and cholesterol.” This is especially true for women.

However, when men are stressed, they prefer to be alone. Read more about this research here.

I’m fortunate to have lots of people who fall into this category. Here’s a little collage of the people who make me feel safe, loved, and happy. :)

Jo Friends and Family

Me with some family and friends.

If I find myself stressing out about a project that I’m working on, I stop working on the project and throw myself into an artistic endeavor.

According to Curl and Forks (2008) “Art making provided the participants of their study with a significant decrease in stress.” You can read more about the study here.

Some of my favorite creative hobbies include jewelry making, singing, and drawing.

If you know someone who is going through a stressful life event, please share this post with him or her. Show them that there are lots of easy and scientifically proven ways to resolve the stress in their life.

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To your comfort and happiness,

JOSEPHINE BILA, M.S.W. has been receiving transfusions to treat a rare genetic blood disorder for over 35 years. Her life experience, advocacy, and schooling helped her become an Expert Patient Representative to the United States Food and Drug Administration’s Office of Special Health Issues. She is an inspirational speaker who has presented to audiences around the world. Her written work has appeared on Yahoo!, CNBC, The Huffington Post, and many other outlets.




  • Suelou says:

    Great ideas, Josephine! Thanks for posting the pics as well….I’ve been
    drinking a lot of green tea lately to help naturally chelate my excess iron, but
    I’m going to try the blueberry tea that you’ve been drinking. Also, if I’m
    feeling very stressed, a cup of tea and an episode of Modern Family  always does
    me well!
    BTW I love, love, love your dog’s name!!!

  • Citygirl15 says:

    So nice to hear that. Be well and stay strong!

  • BettyCorona says:

    Hey, Jo. I love these ideas. I know the kind of stress you were feeling while under that machine. That is how I used to get while in the MRI machine. I would FREAK that it was going to get stuck and I would be stuck inside while the fire department took hours to try to cut me out. Silly, isn’t it? I have developed a few of my own coping mechanisms, but I still get nervous and I know I shouldn’t. Thanks for the shout-out, too 😉 Love ya.

  • JosephineBila says:

    Citygirl15  Oh! Bryan’s mom! I love Bryan. I think we just understand each other. He and I could go months without seeing each other and still fall back onto the same page. It’s like we’ve known each other for centuries. 

    Thanks for the comment and the compliment! xo

  • Citygirl15 says:

    Good read Josephine. I see my son Bryan is included in your besties!

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