Are you Deep In It? In other words, do you believe your “story” so much that your thoughts make you sick?
I recently went to dinner with a friend who also has a genetic illness. During our meal, he started talking about how he doesn’t believe he’s going to live to be 50 years old. He then started talking about how his liver used to hurt and how he believes that my health is better than his.
He then said he should get medical tests done to see if his suspicion is true.
After listening to him spill all of his fears onto myself and my food, I said to him, “You are so Deep In It.”
This is what I say to anyone who is completely obsessed with their sad ‘little me’ story.
These stories have nothing to do with things that are actually taking place in the present moment. Like, in our case, the two of us having dinner at a nice restaurant.
I absolutely loathe these types of conversations, because they are a complete downer, extremely negative, and huge waste of time.
I told him that he will make his fears come true by constantly rehashing them and believing in them. He considered whether or not I was right and I considered how I could make the conversation a little more spirited.
This video discusses the topic in greater detail. Please share it with someone whom you feel might be hurting him or herself by obsessing over their ‘sad little me’ stories.
Here are a bunch of studies that prove that being “Deep In It” is harmful to one’s health:
“A series of studies from around the world has shown that if you believe something could make you ill, it might well do just that. Bad news promotes bad physiology. I think that you can persuade people that they’re going to die and have it happen.”
“A study in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences links “negative” brain activity with a weakened immune system.”
Get Out Of “It,”
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